Every so often in life, you get to a duty station and you find a tribe that makes your time there so, so easy. You support each other through life's hard moments and cheer them on when life gives...
Five weeks. My husband was home for a measly five weeks when he got orders for his next deployment. That marked four deployments within six years. Our world would be flipped upside down, once again.  I was already constructing the...
When we heard about his upcoming deployment, it seemed far away. We felt like we had time. We began planning. My most optimistic self hoped we could get all of the dirty work of pre-deployment out of the way: things...
I remember as a kid when a friend of mine was sad I would ask her “Are you OK?” and maybe offer her a piece of candy from my lunch box with a reassuring “it’ll be OK” pat on...
If we were having coffee, I would tell you this is one of those days where we should be drinking wine instead. You see, it's one of those days when the Deployment Curse has hit me hard.  I sprained my...
There are three little words that I’ve finally started to pay more attention to in my 40s. The truth is I’ve said them many times during the past two decades of adult life. What are they? Must Be Nice. As in,...
Let me start off by saying, any spouse who supports his or her service member in any branch of service - I salute you (Wait, can I do that?)! If you are one of the lovely women or men who...
April is Month of the Military Child. During this month, all branches of the military join together to recognize the unique challenges children in military families face. Whether a child was born into a military family or has newly...
It was my most difficult goodbye. We spent a month leaving jobs and schools; friends and people who had became family; favorite places and foods. I ate more currywurst und pommes and drank more espresso doppio and Hefeweizen than...
The funny thing about a bruise: Sometimes you can't see a bruise, but you can feel it. Other times it's big and ugly and purple. Caused by trauma, these bruises may last a little or a long time. As...
If you ask me how I feel about my husband’s deployment, it might be a curse-laden rant about him being gone for nearly the first ten months of our daughter’s life. But most of the time I look back...
You told me you were deploying today. I wasn't that surprised. It comes with the job. You were due. We were due. It was time. We’ve been so fortunate for the several years without one, though time away was...

Military Lifestyle

The Art of Reaching Out as a New Spouse

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Sometimes during life as a military spouse, one will hear statements like, “You knew what you signed up for when you marry a military service...